Boo-sted Baby! 👻

Hello from paradise!

I’m sitting on my couch with a pumpkin cream cold brew, streaming House of Ho while a pumpkin praline-scented WoodWick candle crackles in the foreground. It was 70º when I took my walk this morning and I spent my lunch break bookmarking fall coats on Nuuly. My NYT Cooking widget has been showing me a recipe for cinnamon babka all day.

This is living.

My therapist would call this an “oasis of calm.” I would call this “the calm before the storm.” I got my combination Covid booster-flu shot this morning. My left arm freakin hurts, I’ve had a headache all day and I’m starting to get a little hot and sweaty despite the fact that I have the A/C on.

So in an effort to prolong this pumpkin oasis of peace (tragically, the initialism for that comes out to P.O.O.P.)….

Let’s look at some links!

I NEED this fuzzy checkerboard coat. Don’t sell it out before I can Nuuly it.

This Cup of Jo piece about crushing on Daryl McCormack totally gets it right. That accent! *sWOon*

Do you listen to The World’s First Podcast with Erin & Sara Foster? Well, you should. This is my favorite episode. It’s all about manifesting, healing and creating your own set of non-negotiables.

I really want to see Spin Me Round. This movie has it all: fake Olive Garden, Molly Shannon, Aubrey Plaza being sexy, Zach Woods (also being sexy), pasta, mystery, intrigue!

I love practicing these jaw massage techniques. I don’t know how NOT to clench my jaw so these intentional moments of relief are necessary — I lowkey need masseter botox (hmu if you know a good spa).

How do I convince my boyfriend to go in on these cool kitchen chairs with me?

These little ghost candles are too cute to light.

Just some Rosh Hashanah socks.

I love Jake Cohen’s challah recipe. He shares a bunch of tips on how to make the perfect challah here.

Imagine getting cozy under this positively MASSIVE blanket.

I want a new carry-on bag. After seeing 8 million TikToks about it, I think I’ve been influenced to get this one from Beis.

How cute are these pumpkin gnocchis?

Anyway!

I hope you’re embracing your inner fall queen. I’m enjoying being old and basic as hell.

Love you/talk soon/it’s 6pm and I’m falling asleep

L

Not Another Friday Link Pack

Welcome to Friday!

It’s MDW!

That stands for “Memorial Day Weekend.” I know this because I received about five different emails with those initials in the subject line before I finally thought….okay, I’ll bite. What the hell does MDW mean?

My long weekend looks like friends and family coming in from out of town that I haven’t seen in over a year, dining on outdoor patios, splish-splashing in the Four Seasons pool, drinking espresso martinis, wearing lots of white (prob a bad idea while sipping a brown drink but w/e) and avoiding doing laundry.

But before I take 100000 new Instagram pics….

LET ME HIT YOU WITH THE FIRDAY LINK PACK!

I f*cking GOT the ruffled Alo tennis skirt, only to be massively disappointed with how frumpy it looks on me!! On a whim, I also got the Alo Match Point Tennis Skirt (no ruffles) and basically….welcome to my new summer uniform. I plan on purchasing one in every color. (PRO TIP: the ruffled skirt will prob look better on you if you’re more pear-shaped. It’s a lot of fabric for me and anyone with darling little chicken leggies [and no ass].)

I am in desperate need of a new duvet. I always tend to go for something white. It makes the room look brighter during the day and feel cooler at night. This UO one is basic but I’m into it. This floral one is also a really pretty option AND it’s on sale.

Dan and I have been watching Hacks. Joe Mande alert on Episode 5!!

I think I’ll make this Alison Roman pasta salad recipe and take it to the beach at some point for a picnic.

Just painted my nails this color. Got it at Target.

I also watched a TikTok where this girl did a whole face of ELF makeup and it convinced me to buy this primer and the adorable application brush that goes with it.

Going up north to see family in Oakland this summer. Really want to try the hand-pulled noodles at this place.

Are these the cutest shorts you’ve ever seen?

Good Fur you.

But also these the best things ever for erasing bikini bumps and I am devastated for all the years I did not have them.

If you’re in LA and you’re plant-based/GF and LOVE Italian food… do yourself a favor and check out Pura Vita. Prob my new go-to spot for comfort food.

NOT Harry Hill influencing me to want this ugly Coach bag like it’s 2006.

My favorite TikTok story line? That girl who discovered via another person’s video on the app that her shitty IRL friends actually didn’t want her hanging around. Welp! She’s thriving now. ☺️

Also not a thing to click, just something incredible my therapist said to me that I feel like screaming from rooftops. I was explaining to her how I was “trying” to take care of myself and listing all the things and ways. She was like “what do you mean by trying? You are doing. You are DOING it.” It was very much a holy sh*t moment. So when you notice that you are doing nice things for your brain and for your body, I urge you to see it as less of a “trying” to make it work and more of an act of legitimately doing it.

Because you are.

There is no dress rehearsal for life (or for self care). It requires daily maintenance and any act, even drinking more water or making sure you get more rest, is fucking DOING the damn thing.

BYE BESTIES PLS WEAR UR SUNSCREEN THIS WEEKEND

Friday Link Pack

First of all, stream Sour by Olivia Rodrigo.

Second of all, hello! My brain feels broken. TGIF.

Let’s do some shopping/looking/gabbing/glazing over!

Starting this on a high note by telling you about this plushie that I got for period cramps. They offer it in a variety of shapes, but I picked the turtle. What’s great about this little toy is that you pop it in the microwave for a minute or so and the beans (or whatever the hell it is inside) heat up and feel very soothing on your tummy area/uterus. Plus, it smells like lavender and I think it’s a super cute little bud to have when you’re feeling gloomy on the couch/in bed.

Currently on the hunt for a dupe of these Lisa Says Gah! flatforms. Could have sworn I wore a similar pair to my fifth grade graduation….?

I bought this fancy candle and now I feel like an adult.

I wore these Poppy Lissiman sunglasses on my IG and got DMs asking about them. I truly have no idea what my personal style feels like anymore, so I am experimenting. These were a little out of my comfort zone but after a successful coffee run wearing them, I’ve decided to keep them. The lenses also come in different colors.

Want a reading rec? This is one of the best books I’ve read in a while. Will make you want to travel/eat good food/cry/call your parents. I also read this book…the first half is a walk down meme-memory lane and the second half is an emotional wallop. I think I am grieving life before and the strange middle times we just had. So recently, sad books with strong endings have been feeling appropriate.

Fascinating discourse on the genesis of Hot Cheetos. “This guy should run for office if he’s that good at fooling everyone.” Damn. Fake it ’til you make it I guess?

I am currently obsessed with Human Design. I’m a Generator. What are you? This TikTok lady is an excellent source once you find out.

Goose just came out with a new nightgown style! This one is inspired by Madeline. Yes, the little red haired French girl. I already own the Amy (Little Women-inspired) and it is the perfect post-shower/bath ensemble.

I love this meatball recipe. I love meatballs in general, but this one is extra tasty and a snap to make. I came home from a pilates class and whipped this up in 10 min, popped it in the oven, showered and by the time I came out it was done.

I want this frikkin tennis skirt!!!!! Why is it ALWAYS out of stock!!

This white bean pesto recipe looks so damn good. Imagine it on toast?? Ffff mm.

Did you listen to Sour yet? I know I told you to stream it at the top of this link pack but I just kind of assumed you would go do it immediately. What is your favorite song??? I want to scrawl the lyrics to “brutal” all over my personal property HOWEVER my Cancer sun and rising signs have forced me to play “traitor” on one endless loop, simply to feel validated by this line:

“Ain’t it funny, remember I brought her up and you told me I was paranoid?”

Until the next time girlbosses!

gaslight, gatekeep, green M&M

L

Link Pack Friday, Friday, Gotta Get Down on Friday

Hello and good morning it is 3 P.M.!

Today I woke up and felt ,,,,, not so great mentally,,, so I decided to treat my brain like a friend and devote my day to doing things I like.

It was supposed to rain this morning but it ended up being gorgeous outside. I took a little walk in the sunshine and picked up an almond milk triple-shot latte and a slice of red velvet cake at Starbucks. I got home, put on my favorite podcast and did some work. Then I did some pilates with a really fun Blogilates video and after took a shower and used every single luxurious product I own.

Now we are here and I honestly feel better.

I know it’s not always as easy as this. I can’t ignore the thick coat of depression and anxiety we’re all under thanks to a global pandemic, shady/shitty/just plain bad politics, systemic racism, the U.S. COVID response/vaccine distribution disaster, every small business and restaurant we know and love closing because our government failed to provide monetary relief, wide-spread death, etc…

But on the personal level of just me, and just my OCD-addled brain, I am choosing to celebrate that today it was not so hard to turn one thing around.

ANYWAY ! LINKS !

So my order of the new Parade seamless underwear came and I am thriving. I can’t stand underpants with any sort of elastic against my skin and these are truly buttery soft and won’t just slide down your butt like most seamless pairs do. 10/10 recommend. I really love the grass green and the sky blue colors in the brief and hip-hugger styles. If you’re thinking about getting a pair (or a few) use my code lily-d26 for a free pair!

It’s the Lunar New Year! Here are some traditions and taboos you should know about.

Hate crimes fueled by anti-Asian racism have risen by 1,900% in New York after the start of the pandemic. There have recently also been a string of violent attacks on the Asian community in Northern California. Want to help? Fight Asian-targeted (and all) racism by calling it out when you hear it, reporting it, and donating to the people and communities it causes harm to.

I made the TikTok pasta. How was it? I really liked it. It was sort of like a feta mac-n-cheese. I also used gluten-free pasta which I think helped the heavy dish feel a little lighter. My notes? Use garlic powder not actual garlic and add scallions to the tomatoes while you roast them. Mix spinach in with the dish once you start combining it with the pasta for some added greens. If you haven’t made it yet and your main worry is that you won’t like it because you think it’s a lot of cheese, it is. This is probably a skip for you then.

I really need some new dishtowels. I think these are pretty. These are cool too.

So people can see my face when I’m on a Zoom in my cave-like living room (god I hate this WFH existence) I purchased a ring light. This ring light to be exact! It plugs into the wall (my laptop does not have any USB outlets,,,,thanks Apple), has adjustable tri-pod legs, a holder for your phone (in case my beauty vlogging career takes off I guess), three different light settings AND makes it so my boss can see me scowling during the 10 A.M.

Why do I love these smiley nails? @ Color Camp please make neon green ones with frowny faces.

Dan and I are doing fondue for Valentine’s Day! We’re doing a meat, a cheese and a chocolate. I found some inspiration for things to dip here. I already know what Dan got me (because I asked for it and sent him a link lmao).

We made these Trader Joe’s mac & cheese bites for the Super Bowl and they were the hit of our 4-person pod feast.

I have NOT been able to stop fantasizing about these shoes ever since I saw them on my favorite TikToker….GlitterParis!!

Most days I feel exactly like this:

Can’t think of a gift for your BFF or S/O? Might I suggest….

Anyway, my wet hair has dried into a triangle and I must go burn it into submission with various heated tools!

xoxo

Saturday Link Pack

Hello!

Happy weekend! I am currently sitting on my couch, next to my boyfriend, who is depressed that I have announced that I want lip injections.

I ran an Instagram poll this week asking you all what you’d like to see more of on Lately, and many of you (the 5 people who responded) answered roundups and recipes. So on this grey LA October day, I am posting a roundup of just….shit from the internet? And a recipe or two.

Enjoy

Speaking of D*n, he LOVED this brown-butter salmon with lemon and Harissa recipe that I made the other week. It’s an Alison Roman dish and was fairly easy to make.

I have been dreaming of these press-ons from Color Camp. The orange is fall AF. If you’ve never ordered from CC, they send you a try on kit before your order ships so you can give them the exact size of your nails. The result is press-ons that actually fit and look natural. This autumn floral design is super cute too.

This is THE BEST smelling & looking candle.

Repeller (formerly Man Repeller) shut down this week, right after a relaunch that held the promise of inclusivity and would have opened the door to much-needed conversations in the fashion/beauty/lifestyle digital space. If you want details on the close, you can read about it here. If you want some insider gossip on the sitch….click here.

I’ve been eyeing these bike shorts (yes bike shorts are still a core part of my wardrobe) from Aerie. The v-seam looks ultra-flattering. Plus, they’re on sale right now for $25. They also come in legging form.

I just started using these much-hyped Japanese beauty skin cloths in the shower. They exfoliate like a mofo. 10/10 recommend.

I’ve been trying to up my fermented foods/probiotics intake, because I have severely screwed up my gut health during quarantine. I’ve been really enjoying drives to Erewhon for Kombucha Kat (and I am a person who typically doesn’t like kombucha but this stuff is really tasty). I’ve also started drinking this blackberry apple cider vinegar tea in the mornings.

You STILL need to wear SPF in the fall/winter!! Even when it’s not sunny out. Even indoors! They discontinued making my favorite one from Purito : ( right as I am squeezing out of the last drops from my bottle! I might try EltaMD next, or Solid & Striped.

Maybe I’ll wear this dress to Thanksgiving. I know it’s not even Halloween yet, but I have been dreaming of eating stuffing.

Somebody buy me these earrings.

Halloween is in 1 week! My grandmother sent me some Halloween/fall cookie cutters and I put them to good use. She even sent me a card with the sugar cookie recipe she has been making my entire life.

Albertson’s was out of purple and orange icing. Peep the pilgrim hats I tried to turn into a spooky witches hat and a fall hat for gardening.

Anyway, we saw a rat on the balcony yesterday. Tell me again why we left the valley?

xoxoxo

Lily

Have a Cozy-Making Sunday

I am writing this to you from my kitchen table, where I have a lovely view of an aluminum butter wrapper that has flown onto my balcony and out of someone’s trash. Either that or my upstairs neighbors are dumping their garbage out of their window.

I have yet to learn to love life on the east side.

ANYWAY.

I have a face mask on, I’m wearing my gnocchi Uggs, and I’m sipping some re-heated coffee. To add to the major relaxation vibes, Dan has football on (which is serving as my background noise ASMR for the day) and I have lit every single candle in our apartment. It is the late-teens of October and I am extremely dedicated to the spirit of Sunday cozy-making.

While it still may not be cold enough in LA to wear a sweater and I will probably have to say R.I.P. to any plans I had to go to a pumpkin patch this year, here are some things on the internet that are making me feel especially cozy today:

In the spirit of becoming my own favorite Midwestern aunt, it is my duty to inform all of you that this is the last day of Bath & Body Works buy 1, get 1 3-wick candle sale.

This weekend I listened to the Amelia Diamond episode of Gee Thanks, Just Bought It, and it was like spending time with an old friend. Diamond left Man Repeller (now called, Repeller) in 2018 and I have missed her voice/sense of humor ever since.

As soon as I take a leisurely solo trip to the grocery store to buy ingredients, I’ll be baking this apple cider doughnut cake.

Independent book stores really need your help right now. Even if you don’t have time to read (or like to), you definitely have friends and family who do. Consider buying a book, tote bag, or cool crewneck sweater to keep these places open. Here are a few independent book stores that I love: Unabridged Bookstore (Chicago), Women & Children First (Chicago), Skylight Books (Los Angeles), City Lights Bookstore (San Francisco), McNally Jackson (New York).

I got into my friend’s car after months of not seeing her and one of the first things she said to me was “you smell SO good.” I just started wearing this perfume.

I used to hate tomatoes and now I am obsessed with bursting them with olive oil and a little garlic to make pasta sauce. Will probably make some variation of this for dinner this week.

Have you been doing yoga at home? I’ve been really into SarahBethYoga’s videos. Sometimes I take a 15 minute break from work to do this one. I’ve also been looking for a new yoga mat. Anyone have any recs?

Just copped this plaid jacket from Minnesota/North Dakota brand Kittsona. I’m going to have to wait a little until the temps drop to wear it, but when I do I’d love to pair it with something like cozy like this. Mommy blogger fall is the vibe.

Speaking of mommy blogger fall, every year I consider buying this Everlane glove boot. TC if you’re reading this, I need you to peer pressure me into it!!! NO RAGRETS

Hope you’re somewhere cozy, enjoying Great British Baking Show, and drinking mugs of tea.

Love

LL

Monday Link Pack

How are you? How are your New Year’s resolutions going? I’ve already thrown out soooooo many socks and am now left with crazy holiday ones so I am on the hunt for the nice respectable kind. I am thinking either these or these.

As it is the beginning of our first actual week back at work, I have put together a link pack of cool shit on the internet to help you survive either the next ten minutes or all the way until Friday.

I fucking love Melissa McCarthy!! (P.s. the ham sandwiches from Joan’s On Third are divine)

What do you think a paleo, vegan, gluten-free bagel tastes like?

The Curvy Wife guy wrote the BEST Instagram caption–no, seriously!

Aritzia is having a massive sale and I just bought the cutest skirt from it

SEASON 4 CATASTROPHE TRAILER IS HERE

I made this Now & Again chili recipe from Julia Turshen and it was a huge hit! If you don’t have her book you can see the recipe HERE

I plan on making this furikake Chex Mix snack at some point

All I want are these clogs 

My mom DMed me this

I am obsessed with this tattoo artist’s Instagram 

Also, strongly considering purchasing some PamWear

Over Easy is my favorite column on the internet

Mrs. Maisel is hosting SNL and the musical guest is Greta Van Fleet LMAO what is this pairing!!!

Did Chrissy Metz call Allison Brie a bitch on the red carpet?

Come on guys….was this on purpose?

This is my favorite mask ever ever and it makes me so happy!

I tried one of the redness reducing products on this list and am currently loving it

Trying out this Chicago restaurant over the weekend

Just cuz